Kind Visitor

On Hard Times, But Too Proud to Beg

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It was the sombrero that caught my eye. You could blot out the sun with that thing, I thought. Then I noticed the bony man beneath it, his back to me as one of his arms hung at his side and the other made furtive plunging movements.

He turned, revealing a scraggly mustache and a bandaged forehead. Also visible now was the object of his attention a moment earlier: one of the garbage cans scattered around the plaza in Ajijic, a Mexican town near Guadalajara that's popular with retired Canadians and Americans.

Several dozen retirees were in the plaza, drinking coffee and eating cake at outdoor tables, as the old man rifled garbage for something to eat. Any of the gringos could have given the old man a few pesos for an empanada, but they didn't and he wasn't asking anyway.

Instead, the old man limped past the ex-pats—fabulously wealthy people by comparison—and made a beeline for another garbage can from which he scored something edible and quickly put it in his mouth. Then he limped to two more garbage cans and rifled them before leaving the plaza, his head proudly raised despite the hard time he was having.

I wanted to help, but I knew from past experience that people like him don't want and won't accept handouts. They aren't beggars, they will tell you, insulted. So instead I grabbed my camera, caught up with him and tapped his shoulder. He turned slowly, his left side frozen by a stroke, but his eyes animated with surprise.

Pardon me, I said in Spanish, but can I take your photo? I will pay 100 pesos (about US$6), I added before he could reply. A handout is one thing, a modeling fee quite another. Si, señor, he said proudly and raised his chin to convey the respect he had for himself. I snapped the photo you see here and thanked him. It was a good moment for both of us.

By Scott Doggett, Reno, Nevada, U.S.A.


  • Donnie Matthews Inspiring story and photo. Integrating into lives where souls stay whole defines a kind visitor.
  • Ken Matusow Well done Scott!
  • Stephen Myers Scott, I absolutely love this photo. And, I love the way you approached this man in his situation.
  • Scott Doggett Note: In this Mexican community, a job paying $30 a day is considered a very good job.
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Kindness Partner's Information
Name Unknown
Street Address Town Plaza (La Plaza in Spanish)
City Ajijic
State/province Jalisco
Country Mexico
Post Code Not applicable
Contact None
Contact's Title None
Phone None
Email None
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KiVi Notes
The only thing I'd add is that it's not always easy to get up and help. People might be watching you and if you're shy, their eyes on you might make you feel uncomfortable. Don't let them. Know that helping a hurting person will feel so much better than the slight discomfort you might experience being noticed.